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Live in the Moment

7 years ago, my husband and I had a debate about whether or not I should get a smartphone.  We had recently moved to a new state and I got lost every single place I went.  I’d call my husband, describe where I was and where I was trying to go, and he’d have to look up google maps and direct me.  I guess he wasn’t fond of this arrangement, because a couple of months in, he said I needed to get a GPS or a Smartphone.

I was leaning toward GPS.  I had no intention of getting a smart phone and becoming one of those people that stares at it constantly.  I had small children.  However, GPS doesn’t always update as much as we’d like in an area that always has new roads and developments, so in the end, smartphones won.

I took a job last year where I come in contact with many families.  Over and over, I see small children trying to get their parent’s attention and their parents are just staring at their phones.  It takes many tries to get their attention, and when the child succeeds, they are frequently met with the irritation of their parent.  I cannot begin to tell you how many times a day I see this play out, and it’s heart breaking.  Every time, it reminds me of that debate about whether or not I wanted to get a smartphone in the first place.

My point here is that you only get one chance at so many things:  your life, your children’s lives, your children being little.  Don’t waste those moments on stupid distractions.

Don’t get me wrong, there are distractions everywhere, phones are just the biggest and they don’t seem to be going away anytime soon.  So while we’re all making our New Year’s Resolutions, let’s think about resolving to live more intentionally.

5 Tips to Live in the Moment

5 Tips to live in the moment

  1. Don’t compare yourself to others

    And realize that you do it subconsciously.  See that great room on Pinterest and you think your home should look like that?  See your friends family photos on Facebook and think you should hire a photographer to capture your family frolicking in the leaves?  Wrong!  These are just ways you’re subconsciously taking swipes at yourself.  You’re better than that!  Also, your kids don’t care about those things.  Only other people on Pinterest and Facebook care.

  2. Put yourself in someone else’s shoes

    Are you out with your kids?  Maybe spending some time with a grandparent?  How are they going to remember this day with you?  Are you paying attention to them or are you going through perfunctory movements?  Bring Grandma a tea and ask her about her life.  Make eye contact.  Become the monster that chases the kids on the playground.  Let these days become happy memories.

  3. Learn to let go (in baby steps)

    The house is a mess, but you haven’t had any free time today.  Guess what?  The house can stay a mess.  Take that time for yourself.  Do something that makes you happy.  The mess will still be there when you’re ready (or if you’re really lucky, you can convince other household residents to help you on a more regular basis).

  4. Find ways to save time

    Do you find yourself running errands every day?  Try making a list of all the errands you plan on running this week.  Then figure out if you can do them in a loop, all in one day.  The time you save is the joy you’ll gain.

  5. Listen to your gut

    Don’t let other people make all your decisions.  Do you think you really need to go out in that storm?  Do you think your kids need a mental health day from school?  Don’t let someone else’s rules override your own gut decisions.  You know what’s best for you and your family.

A few weeks ago, David Cassidy died.  I remember watching him in The Partridge Family when I was a kid.  His passing was overshadowed by the headline a few days later, when his daughter revealed his last words, “So much wasted time”.  Perhaps one of the saddest things to realize at the very end.

Here’s to living in the moment,






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2 thoughts on “Live in the Moment

  1. Jean says:

    Aw, both those things are so sad. It is hard when electronics are everywhere! You shared great tips for helping us to put those things down. The only thing I’d add is maybe to spend some time outside (or at least by a sunny window) each day. I find being outside or with nature helps me so much.

    1. Christine says:

      Thanks Jean! That’s a really good idea. I don’t get outside nearly enough 🙁 I should definitely resolve to do that more with the family!

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