Complacency. It’s a word that’s been on my mind lately. I’ve become complacent.
Years ago, I was single and I managed myself pretty well. I worked 2 jobs, handled a full time college course load, paid all my bills and made sure my car maintenance was done on time. And then, I met my husband.
He’s great. He loves to cook and he loves working on cars. He knows a ton about tech and he’s super handy around the house. For ten years, I’ve let him take over all of those things. I no longer cook or work on my car, purchase my own tech or fix anything around the house.
Fast forward to this past Saturday. My car broke down. The heat gauge went all the way up and I pulled over to the side of the highway. And then….I didn’t know what to do.
I called my husband.
He came and looked at the engine and we waited together for the tow truck. And I realized that I didn’t know if any maintenance was due on my car. I didn’t know when the last time was that I had any fluids done. I didn’t even know if our insurance had roadside assistance.
What happened to me? I’ve grown so comfortable in allowing my husband to take on the car maintenance, that I stopped paying attention. And I realized it’s not just the car: It’s fixing things around the house. It’s cooking dinner. It’s knowing what to purchase. Not only have I completely lost touch, but I am unfairly putting the burden on my husband to take care of all these things. He might have enjoyed taking care of my car in the beginning, but I’m sure at some point in the last 10 years, he probably would have rather spent a Saturday doing something for him instead of getting new tires on my car.
This is a turning point. I’m not going to stand by, helplessly becoming the damsel in distress. It’s time to take back my life. I’m a smart, competent, independent woman. I can do more than kiss boo boos and make things pretty. When I am just as capable of taking care of things as my husband, we can accomplish twice as much.
From this moment forward, I’m going to bring it. I’m taking back my life and my independence and I will be a better wife, better mother, better role model. And, given that this should provide quite a lot of project opportunity, by default, I will be a better blogger.
Join me! Everyone has something in their lives that they’ve let slip. What is something you want to take back?