The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up, Day 2: Joyless
It’s day two of my exploration of The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up. Day one had me excited, but without direction. On day two, we’re getting into the heart of the book.
Day Two: Section 2
Section 2 of the book is all about discarding. Yes! This is where the wisdom should come in.
The first part of the KonMari method is to visualize the life you want to lead. For me, I want a tidy house that doesn’t require non-stop cleaning. I want to feel like I can relax and people can drop by to visit without my feeling embarrassed. Keeping a good visualization of the end goal is a great motivator in any project.
“We should be choosing what we want to keep, not what we want to get rid of” – I couldn’t love this advice more! This is a psychological trick to re-frame what you’re doing. When my daughter was in pre-school, she would attach herself to me and scream bloody murder every day. Her wise teacher asked me to start taking her through the car drop off line and she never made a fuss- not once! The car drop off re-framed what was happening in her mind: I was not leaving her at the door to her classroom. She was leaving me when she picked up her things and exited the van. “Choosing what we want to keep” instead of “choosing what we want to get rid of” is this same re-framing for grown ups.
Declutter by category, not by room – While this is great advice, it’s nothing new. When I was first learning how to properly organize, one of the first rules was “keep like with like”. When you have like with like, you don’t have scores of the same thing all over your home and you can also easily spot when a set of items is getting out of hand.
Yes my friends, this is the part of the book where KonMarie introduces us to the famous “does it spark joy?” question we are to ask of all our belongings.
While I understand part of the motivation behind it (if you don’t like that shirt, get rid of it), I’ve got to say that if I were to eliminate all the things in my closet that don’t “spark joy”, I’m going to be running around pants-less. I’m not sure that’s the look I want to go for. And what about things you have to have? My tax returns…..nope. Not sparking any joy there either. But I still need to keep them. There are a lot of functional things that I’m not sure the joy question can be attributed to, so now I’m getting antsy.
Looking forward to part three and hoping the answer to what to do with joyless items comes up.
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